Coming In Hot
You better believe it
Yep as a woman in the middle … Watch out.
I am so over the whole idea we are fed that midlife is a time to be feared, to be denounced & that we are in a place of diminishing returns once we hit a certain age. Recently I was researching menopause and there was a question on a medical website - “What happens if menopause is left untreated” - Oh my lord…Yes it’s a transition, but it’s not a disease, and we need to start changing our language around that. Yes we need management strategies, and maybe the support of the medical system, but honestly we are disempowering people telling them it’s all downhill from here.
Now I have been diminished. Done that. Never again. Never.
Coming to a place where we celebrate this unraveling, taking off of all the masks we have worn & the parts we have played & settle in to being comfortable with who we actually are is energising - a prospect full of possibility. Often, however, it has been so long, we have lost sight of who we are, & we need to do some searching to remember. Or even to reimagine. Maybe this is you? You are not alone.
Having an acute awareness about the preciousness of life, our focus becomes more streamlined and refined once we remember our mortality is finite.
I think sometimes we forget. I know I do.
We think there will be enough time to sort out all the crap that rumbles around in our head & our hearts. We think there will be time for extra coffees, teas, wines, connecting. We tell ourselves … there will be time.
But what happens when there isn’t?
When do we start paying attention? When Midlife arrives, loss in all its forms is often compounded. Loss is something I have been sitting & working with for some time both personally & with others. I want to explore this more, because we must change the story of losing things - our past, our youth, our careers, because all that exposes is even more devaluing of ourselves. Loss is like a portal to something different that doesn’t always mean unfavourable. As the dead leaves drop in the Autumn, so too there are times in our lives when we need to let the things that don’t serve us go.
So what happens when there is an ending?
There is a beginning. Of something else.
Wherever you are at, start to recognise if sitting in a space of something ending is holding you back from finding something new. Whenever there is pain & loss there is also space for renewal.
This is now your time.
There are always endings and beginnings in everyday.
Choose to find something else to begin the next chapter, the next part of your story because, if you are reading this, your story isn’t over yet.
It is an absolute privilege to age. And to age in a country that is safe, with good health care, food, stability…how bloody lucky are we?
But it’s not always easy. In fact I don’t think it ever is. And just like it takes a village to raise a child, it takes connection & community to hold us, see us, value us, hear us, & love us, so we can step into our wisdom years fully, wholeheartedly & delightfully.
I would love you to join me as I move into new programs, new real life connections, & retreats over the next month. Because like you, I have arrived at this juncture. I have also been building skills, experience & wisdom to help guide us all with practical strategies, techniques & solutions.
It’s time to become ourselves.
Let me know how I can help you. Let’s make the best of the rest together.
As always, thank you for being here
Love
Mon
One More Thing…There is a mini guided meditation in the Audio at about the 8 minute mark. Its only about 3 minutes. Go on…you know you want to
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