Un-Becoming
A Collective Conversation around Midlife
Its a cracker of a time isn’t it, Midlife?
No doubt about it, Midlife is an unraveling. But this doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Transitioning into this new time in our life can be much more than the narrative that is often served to us.
We can reimagine the way we want to move into this next amazing time in our life with a heartfelt intention to do so consciously and creatively.
Midlife Matters.
We Matter.
After we get through seeing our offspring fly the nest or careers end or shift, struggle through the night sweats, the bloating, the brain fog, the aching joints, managing ageing parents … there is Us. There was always Us of course, but we were so bloody exhausted, overwhelmed and hot we might have lost her along the way.
And some of us might find it hard to find Us underneath the aftermath of the hormonal tsunami and extra responsibility that we bear with elder care.
After a divorce, a death & a few house moves under my belt, I have had to do my own redefining and re-purposing. And while these times have been tumultuous, heart wrenching and discombobulating, they have also paved the way for a new way of being me, and have opened up opportunities, connections, confidence and clarity.
I am in the biz of reframing and finding solutions to things that are conundrums. And this midlife caper is somewhat of a conundrum - I feel like we are on the precipice of an explosion of being able to own this time in our life. Where cultural norms are changing and research and support structures are becoming more visible.
Finding ways to tune in, and nurture our essence so we can make the best of the rest is something worth taking time and effort for. There is a groundswell happening. I don’t think we are happy to just put up with our ‘lot’ anymore. Would you agree?
Wild women are an unexplainable spark of life. They ooze freedom and seek awareness, they belong to nobody but themselves yet give a piece of who they are to everyone they meet.If you have met one, hold on to her, she'll allow you into her chaos but she'll also show you her magic.
- Nikki Rowe
How?
We reframe the story we have been fed that midlife is a time of depletion;
We get informed via reliable sources;
Find a Doctor that listens, and explores all the range of options available.
Find yourself. That’s a biggie because in finding our self we find what matters to us, and what’s important. And it’s important because it’s our life;
Take responsibility for ourselves do whatever we can do to help ourselves - yes even when you don’t feel like it. This is the time to ramp up your attention to yourself - this makes you important to you. Look after the foundations of your physical, emotional & mental wellbeing and getting outside support around those areas where needed;
Connect with community & talk about the things that keep us awake at night - literally and figuratively.
Exercise kindness and compassion towards ourselves
Make things an invitation…Variety keeps life interesting, while ritual keeps us grounded. We need both.
This platform is about connecting, and building a space, a community & to weave practices, wisdom, & modern science to nurture all of our paths.
“the ability to ask beautiful questions, often in very un-beautiful moments, is one of the great disciplines of a human life. And a beautiful question starts to shape your identity as much by asking it, as it does by having it answered. You just have to keep asking. And before you know it, you will find yourself actually shaping a different life, meeting different people, finding conversations that are leading you in those directions that you wouldn’t even have seen before”
David Whyte
Think of ageing as the best thing that is happening to you. Ageing is un-becoming all the women you thought you were supposed to be to become the person you really are.
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Thank you for being here
Mon
